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Thousands have confessed to “letting ourselves go” — not making ourselves a priority in our own lives. It’s time to determine your greater purpose.

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Why Women Let Themselves Go
Ever-expanding to-do lists, fears of inadequacy — it’s enough to make anyone want to drop out of the game. Is this happening to you?

Women aren’t on their own list of priorities.
After taking care of everyone else, they are always putting themselves last on the list, and often have very little left to give. There are many women who aren’t living—they just exist. This is a form of self-abuse. Women often wear their exhaustion as a badge of honor. The more you do for your loved ones, the more acceptable it becomes to “let yourself go.” Women believe its okay to sacrifice themselves for their own families. This is a lie that we allow ourselves to buy into, but we need to wake up! The challenge for women is that they must re-language what it means to be a wife and mother. Being a good wife and mother means that if you don’t take care of yourself, in the long run you are ultimately harming all the other people you love in your life. You won’t be the only one who takes the hit.

Fear of Competition
Media and society frequently tell women we need to portray ourselves as “together” and be able to perform any task thrown our way. But when women look at the reality of how overwhelmed they feel in their own lives, they begin to feel like they are not good or worthy enough. Women often see other women who look like they are “doing it all”—and then when they compare themselves, they become overwhelmed and feel inadequate. It’s not easy to face feelings of inadequacy so women usually end up avoiding them. But women need to know you can’t show up in your own life if you are on the run. They tell themselves they are too tired and burdened to compete with others so they don’t believe they have the power to change anything. Then they “drop out” of the game—they give up and let themselves go.

We let fear take over.
Women become paralyzed in their lives and let themselves go because of an underlying fear. A fear of rejection, a fear to accept how they really feel about themselves, a fear of facing the idea that they aren’t enough, a fear of accepting how others may feel about them. They let the fear take over and let other people determine their own self worth. The internal barometer that gauges guides and directs your life as an empowered woman — that makes you know you are enough and okay — is broken and needs to be fixed.

It starts with SELF CARE;

Do you take time out to really take care of yourself? The truth about self-care is that it is necessary for your emotional, physical and spiritual well being, yet many of us put it on the back burner always thinking there are more important things to do.

Isn’t it time for you to practice some self-care?

Below is a list of what might be holding your back from being responsible and taking care of yourself.

Take time to visit this list and re-evaluate your lifestyle:

• A Desire To Please Everyone
• Trying To Be Perfect All The Time
• Negative Thinking
• Feeling Like You Don’t Deserve It
• Poor Time Management
• Lack of Planning and Organization
• Putting Things Off
• Difficulty in saying “NO”
• Worrying (All The Time) about the Future and Past
• Not Living in the present moment
• Lack of exercise
• Not eating healthy

Launch your personal comeback! Rediscover who you are!

You do deserve it and in fact you owe it to those around you. You cannot be very effective in your relationships when you are tired, run down or resentful of never being able to take care of yourself.

If YOU really matter to YOU, get serious about taking some time out to nurture and take care of the inner and outer you and …ENJOY it!

Do things that make you feel good, loved and special? Do things that help you connect to you? Do things for YOU!

Live Consciously!

Christine Spencer, Life / Success Coach